10 signs to know he’ll be good in bed

image Want to know whether he’ll be good in bed before you agree to that second date? Discover the 10 tell-tale signs that reveal whether he’s likely to be hot (or not) between the sheets…

He has a big appetite

Want a man who makes love with gusto? Suggest a dinner date and watch how he eats. After all, how he tucks into his food should give you a good indication of how he might nibble on your ears, neck, toes… and everywhere else in between.
For starters, does he have a hearty appetite? Great lovers enjoy all the pleasures life has to offer – especially the sensual ones, like eating. As sex expert and author of Supersex, Tracey Cox, says: “A good appetite usually mean’s he’s got a lusty libido to match.”
Does he savour each mouthful of food or stuff his face? Watch out for the wham-bam-thank-you man who demolishes a hamburger in 10 seconds flat warns Tracey. There’s a difference between a healthy appetitive and a man who’s in a rush to satisfy his needs.

Body language doesn’t lie

It’s estimated that 93 percent of human communication is via body language and tone – and only 7 percent is conveyed by the actual words we use. When it comes to talking sex, the body doesn’t lie.
If you’re on your first date and notice that he avoids eye contacts, sits back and away from you or has his arms folded, it’s not worth having a second date – no matter what he says. These are all signs of disinterest – or at the very least, you’re dealing with a cold fish.
If he keeps a close eye on the door and his feet point towards the exit, get your coat and go. He’s either waiting for a better offer to walk in, or wants out – so don’t waste your time.

He dresses well – but not too well

We all want a man who looks good – but if he has more lotions and potions and takes longer to get ready than you, it doesn’t bode well.
“If he’s a complete peacock – obsessed with his looks and skin care regime – he may not like ‘messy’ fun in bed. And he might be more concerned with the way he looks in the mirror then letting go for a hot romp,” says sex and relationships expert and author of Steamy Sex, Dr. Pam Spurr. Worse, he might be overly critical of you, how you look and what you do in bed, she warns.
What about the man who can’t be bothered to change his socks, let alone make sure they match his shoes? “If he’s let himself go and doesn’t care at all about looks he’ll probably be lazy in bed,” says Pam.

He’s a great dancer

Dancing can be intimate, passionate and fun – watch his moves on the dance floor and you’ll get a good idea of his skills between the sheets. So what exactly should you be looking for?
“Three things,” says Tracey, “variety, rhythm, and an ability to lose himself in the music.” Dad dancers and awkward, self conscious floor-shufflers need not apply – and if he can’t dance without moving the lower half of his body? “It’s a safe bet to assume he’s not driven by lust,” she adds.

He’s good with money

While money can’t buy you love (or make you great in bed), there’s a lot you can tell about a man from his ‘relationship’ with money.
“If he flashes the cash and tries to show off through money he’ll probably put on a ‘performance’ in bed but not actually ask you what you want,” says Pam. “Such men usually have a tried-and-tested sex routine and don’t bother finding out what a new partner likes, so you’ll have to tell him loud and clear what works for you.”

He’s a great talker

Have you noticed what he does with his hands when he talks? According to the experts, how a man gestures reveals what kind of lover he will make. And if he can’t help expressing himself with his hands over dinner, just imagine what use he’ll put them to in bed.
“Hand gestures can reveal a great deal about a man’s sexual personality,” says psychologist Corrine Sweet. “A man who uses his hands in an expressive and tactile way is more likely to make a sensuous lover. If he has a cat, watch how he strokes it, even how he runs his fingers through his hair.”

He’s a fantastic kisser

You can tell a lot about a man from the way his kisses – and not just whether he has good technique or not. If you get to first base and the kissing is intense, passionate and exciting, there’s every chance the sex will be too. If it’s not, then why go to third base at all?
“If he refrains from shoving his tongue down your throat, he won’t rush you into sex,” says Tracey – and that means you can expect foreplay galore. And if he gets a little carried away during the make out session? “Even better,” she says, “who wants a lukewarm lover?”
The most promising lovers are those who use a variety of techniques in their kiss, she says. If he nips, chews, bites, and licks and really explores all of your mouth, there’s every chance he’s going to be good in bed.

He likes to sample new things

It’s not just how he eats but what he eats. If your dinner date refuses to try anything new, or won’t eat anything that doesn’t come with a slab of red meat, it could be cause for concern.
“Let’s face it, if he’s not into experimenting or trying exotic fare, he’s hardly going to dish up the Kama Sutra behind closed doors, is he? Bread-and-butter taste in food equals bread-and-butter sex,” says Tracey.
The real test for food though, is if he shares. “The guy who offers you a mouthful of his main course and chooses the yummiest-tastiest part for you to try is definitely a keeper,” says Tracey. And if he hand feeds you chocolate dessert from his spoon? “Marry him!” she says.